If you can support a child now and you feel like you wont find a husband anytime soon then go for it.
What do you think is the right age to decide to have a baby.
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 insomniac19 |
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Posts: 76227 (06/17/2009 11:40 PM) JJBer of the Year '01
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I won't find a husband because I'm not looking for one. Honestly, I could probably put myself out there...maybe try the online thing but I just
don't care that much which is pretty bad.
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nsyncer5 |
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Posts: 659 (06/17/2009 11:47 PM) |
insomniac19 wrote: If you feel ready for a child and are in the "right place" so to speak then I'd say go for it. I wouldnt change my life for anything in this world. 
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Batoutofheck |
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Posts: 13187 (06/17/2009 11:52 PM) |
I would say 35 to 38 too. But it would be really hard to wait if I wanted a baby now.
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Kacie209 |
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Posts: 7010 (06/18/2009 12:05 AM) |
I would go with 35. I'm 28, in a year long relationship but don't see myself getting married for another couple of years. Then if we waited, I'd be
31-32 before I would have kids at the rate I'm going.
My mom had me when she was 28, but she was also married at 23. The last guy I dated seriously always wanted to be a young dad. We're the same age and is now engaged and she's only 23, so by the time they get married (probably next year), she'll be close to 25 when they have kids and he'll be 30. Should have stuck with me buddy... we'd be having kids already! |
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nickscdngirl |
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Posts: 10641 (06/18/2009 12:08 AM) |
35 is my cut off - I already told my parents & my grandma smacked me in the head with a towel
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insomniac19 |
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Posts: 76240 (06/18/2009 12:12 AM) JJBer of the Year '01
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nickscdngirl wrote:I just told my best friend that if I'm not in a serious relationship by 33 or at 33 I'm going it alone. She says she supports me in that. The funny thing is she's getting married in August and I don't care at all about that, not jealous at all. But when she and her fiance started talking about trying for a baby next year I got SOOO depressed. And she's only 24! |
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melloo |
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Posts: 2811 (06/18/2009 12:13 AM) |
insomniac19 wrote:I don't think it's bad. If you aren't interested in a husband, you aren't interested.  That's a little different then giving up hope and having a kid because you
can't find anyone to be with. If you have a stable life, job and home I don't see a problem with having a kid alone at 28. Any man worth marrying
down the road would love a child regardless if it were his or not.
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dawn9476 |
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Posts: 22682 (06/18/2009 12:15 AM) |
Early thirties before your chance of conceiving goes down even more after you turn 35.
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jus4lafs |
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Posts: 160 (06/18/2009 12:15 AM) |
insomniac19 wrote: I'm 28 and now I am also depressed.... thanks 
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insomniac19 |
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Posts: 76242 (06/18/2009 12:16 AM) JJBer of the Year '01
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I think 33 is good because ideally I'd like to have 2 kids. Now, if I ever get married I want 4.
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Hp GaL04 |
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Posts: 38661 (06/18/2009 12:17 AM) Most Dramatic '07 |
Late 20's
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danyela2001 |
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Posts: 5020 (06/18/2009 12:18 AM) |
I don't think there's an actual age. Experts say 25 is the age where the woman's more fertile. But just because she is doesn't mean she's
mature enough to take on the responsability of a baby.
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Hamptonic |
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Posts: 1799 (06/18/2009 12:19 AM) |
insomniac19 wrote: If your going it alone- are your odds better for multiples w/ invitro? |
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RedLampDistrict |
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Posts: 9343 (06/18/2009 12:20 AM) |
I think you should just have one now! If a baby is what will make you happy and you obviously can afford to take care of one now, why not now? You don't
even seem to really want a husband, but you do want a baby, so go for it! Life's too short.
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06/18/2009 12:25 AM.
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LuvBug |
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Posts: 2914 (06/18/2009 12:22 AM) |
I agree if your not looking for a husband and your ready now then now is good.
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insomniac19 |
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Posts: 76244 (06/18/2009 12:25 AM) JJBer of the Year '01
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OMG...don't tell me that, guys!
I am still holding out hope that I'll find the man of my dreams and get married and have the four kids I want. If I have a baby now I am pretty much saying I've given up hope for that! I think the chances are higher for multiples with invitro. I started to look it up at work one day and was hauled away from the computer and told to stop spazzing out.
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LuvBug |
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Posts: 2915 (06/18/2009 12:36 AM) |
I want 4 kids too!
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JJB Is The New Google |
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Posts: 369 (06/18/2009 1:22 AM) |
I'm 28 now and in a really good relationship where we've discussed marriage and children. We both agreed to be married a year before really trying. So
that would be put at 30, which I'm fine with. When I was 25 I would rather go to a concert with friends than contemplate putting a child through 17 years
of school.
As for a cut-off point. Everyone is different. If I were single, I'd say 35, maybe 40. |
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Posts: 14719 (06/18/2009 1:40 AM) |
I never want kids by myself, but if I did, I would probably be about 38 or so. Maybe 40.
Here's the thing, I am going to be 35. I can see getting married in the next 3-5 years if I meet the right guy. It is MUCH harder to get into a relationship with a child. I don't want to be in my mid 30s with a child and meet a great guy who might freak out about my child. Then again, these are WHAT IF scenarios. |
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