My best guy friend just moved to Portland (from FL) without saying goodbye. We've been very close for about a year and a half, but 6 months into the
friendship he got a gf. I saw less of him which is understandable, but he ditched EVERYONE for her. He was an awesome loyal friend before, but I accepted that
he's the type of person that refuses to hang out with anyone but their SO. He's breaking up with her because she's staying in FL and not moving
there with him. His last day here we were supposed to see each other not only to hang out one last time, but he borrowed a school book from me that he has to
return. He sent a text that last day saying he's with her and he'll just mail the book. The kicker: she's going with him to help him move and
settle in before flying back in two weeks. It's not like that's their last day together. I just wanted a chance to say bye. I thought it was a shitty
friend move to hang out with a gf who will be with you for 24/7 for 2 weeks than say bye to someone you call a close friend you might never see again (in
person). Since he's gonna dump her (she knows so it's not a surprise) I'll probably hear from him ALL the time again just like in the beginning of
the friendship when he was single. This just doesn't sit right with me.
Am I being silly or was this not what a good friend does?
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Posts: 5746 (06/15/2009 11:43 PM) |
That is definitely not what a good friend does, in my opinion. I hate it when friends totally blow you off when they're involved with someone and then try
to pick it up where they left off after they break up. What the fuck is that about?
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Posts: 552 (06/15/2009 11:47 PM) |
Is he not planning on coming back to FL?
When/if he calls you to talk, I would put this on the table before anything else. Let him know how you feel and see where it goes from there. If he's a decent person he will realize his douchery, apologize and hopefully be a better friend. If not, well you've learned something about this particular person and move on. |
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Posts: 4942 (06/15/2009 11:52 PM) |
He has no plans to return. He's not close with his family so he said if they want to see him they have to fly up there. I guess after his gf leaves
I'll tell him I thought it was a crappy thing to do. I don't want him to throw it in my face though because he told me when we were close he ditches
everyone for a gf. He'll probably go the immature route and say "I told you I do that! Why are you suprised?!" I'll try talking to him
though.
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