he wants to date you but doesn't want the 'boyfriend/girlfriend' title
what would you do if a guy said this to you?
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what would you do if a guy said this to you? |
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Posts: 16175 (06/14/2009 9:54 PM) |
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Kwis77 |
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Posts: 17666 (06/14/2009 9:55 PM) |
He wants sex, I'd think, and nothing else.
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PuraVidaPanama |
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Posts: 15455 (06/14/2009 9:55 PM) |
"Keep on walking, I ain't talking to you anymore"
No srly, I would ask why and he has to specific |
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FunSized |
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Posts: 2394 (06/14/2009 9:56 PM) |
He wants to date you and other people as well. Not looking for anything serious, and not worth your time.
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VelvetRope11 |
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Posts: 30699 (06/14/2009 9:57 PM) |
Thanks, but no thanks. You want sex and various other benefits from hanging with a girl, but no title. Not interested in those kinds of relationships any more.
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 26703 (06/14/2009 9:58 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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I would stop seeing him.
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fluffyjenn |
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Posts: 6997 (06/14/2009 9:58 PM) |
Agreed with the others. That's a dealbreaker.
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June 2010 |
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Posts: 1709 (06/14/2009 9:58 PM) |
I don't do hook ups. I would tell him to go find a slag.
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jbcox2002 |
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Posts: 6174 (06/14/2009 10:03 PM) |
I guess I'm in the minority here.
It all depends on YOUR feels IMO. When I first left my husband I was in NO desire to be in a committed relationship for a while. However, I did enjoy the company & attention that "dating" allowed. I was actually the one that would make sure my "dates" knew that I was seeing other people and that at this point I wanted to date but not be "exclusive." The guys seemed to understand and I went on a few dates with a couple, one or two with a couple and a few were only one daters. The one daters were the guys who thought I meant "dating" for "sleeping" so they were thrown to the curb. I did have a rule that I would only sleep with one person at a time. If I was going to sleep with someone again that was it. No sleeping with one dude on Monday and another on Tuesday Just happened to work out that the guy I was sleeping with ended up being someone who I changed my "no exclusive
dating" rule for and we have been together ever since
The point to that story was this: If you are comfortable "dating" other people and don't have strong enough feelings to care if he does or not then why not continue to hang out?? HOWEVER, if you have strong feelings for this guy and he doesn't then it is DEFINATELY better to leave now than risk getting REALLY hurt later on. |
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Posts: 11195 (06/14/2009 10:06 PM) |
haha i wouldn't care - in fact, i'd tell him "that works for me" i mean what's wrong with dating someone without the labels? if
you're ok with that, it shouldn't be a big deal. labels mean nothing.
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P5 Teacher RN |
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Posts: 15963 (06/14/2009 10:06 PM) |
I'd tell him we could have sex, but that's it. I mean, you might as well be honest.
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ILoveDansEyeBrows |
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Posts: 890 (06/14/2009 10:07 PM) |
well, if i only wanted sex and not a relationship i'd say sure. if not, i'd say no thanks.
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Rawk On |
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Posts: 6262 (06/14/2009 10:08 PM) |
That's not something i want. Next.
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VelvetRope11 |
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Posts: 30701 (06/14/2009 10:10 PM) |
Talise81 wrote: That's pretty much what these replies boil down to. For girls in here who aren't looking for serious committment, this guy is great. For girls who aren't into that ever, or aren't into that at whatever point they are now in their lives (like my reply) he's a pass. It's not a big deal either way if you know what you want.
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06/14/2009 10:13 PM.
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AlzyBaba |
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Posts: 340 (06/14/2009 10:11 PM) |
If it was me I would say I'm out. I'm worth dating.
It's going to sound cheesy but...he's just not that into you. |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 6285 (06/14/2009 10:12 PM) |
What would I do? If I was interested in a LTR, then I'd pass. If I wanted more 'carefree' dating, I'd continue to see him.
I see nothing wrong with him saying that. At least he's being honest and letting you know that he's not looking for a monagamous relationship with you. I'd much rather a guy tell me that up front, rather than him letting me think I was the only one (and meanwhile, he's dating other girls behind my back). I don't like having my choices made for me. Not everyone wants to be in a monagamous relationship at every second of their life (like JBCox alluded to in her post). Doesn't make them wrong in general, it just makes them wrong for you (if you're looking for more). |
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Posts: 1007 (06/14/2009 10:13 PM) |
I would think it was going nowhere and probably move on.
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P5 Teacher RN |
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Posts: 15965 (06/14/2009 10:14 PM) |
AlzyBaba wrote:True. But if you're just looking for sex that can be a good thing. |
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Posts: 917 (06/14/2009 10:19 PM) |
He's keeping his options open.
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JustinzBabyGurl |
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Posts: 16176 (06/14/2009 10:30 PM) |
the thing is its my ex (yes i did say we did break up last week). we talked and we both think that we got too serious too fast and he expected too much too
fast. He surpised me and came up friday night for graduation and he told me he didn't come up for sex or graduation but because he still loved me. I told
him with sex I don't want it to be casual or friends with benifits
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FunSized |
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Posts: 2396 (06/14/2009 10:45 PM) |
So he "loves" you, yet doesn't want you to call him your boyfriend?
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