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My sister got married about a month ago. And the wedding - for me - was a disaster. My girlfriend met my side of the family (apart from my parents and siblings) for the first time. She met my cousins, my uncle, my auntie etc etc...

But when i got there, i noticed that my sister chose my brother to stand right next to her, because they need one girl and one boy. And her fiancé chose already HIS sister. I wasnt aware of all that, it was such a slap in the face when i had to face that. A choc.

Her fiancé's family is just plain weird. There was barely any conversation with them. No one introduced themselves to my longtime partner. I've been living in the UK for a year now, havent seen most of the ppl for years.. (the wedding was in france) And they all (Weiss family to be correct!) took pictures of themselves. There is NO picture of my sister and my mom.

The only pictures that we got of my sister and our dad, my uncle took them. No one from their side took a picture of them walking up to the church with everyone following.

Also, my sister got dressed in her mother-in-law (mama weiss)'s house and walked down the road to the church. The bride and the groom at the end were driven by the groom's sister and her husband in their car to the reception. The presents and everything - went into their car afterwards.

There is NO family picture. I was the sister of the bride, and yet no one would pay attention (most of the ppl were from the weiss side). I took ages to find a good dress, i even wanted to go to the make-up artist to be really pretty, but since the day before at the meyer's house we were absolutely ignored and Weiss family was on the front (and my sister let them! course.. she's part of it now) i just said fuck it. Im not gonna waste my money and my time on ppl like that.

Everything that has happened was organized for the WEISS FAMILY. My parents were barely asked what they wanted. The only time my parents (actually only my dad) were involved is when my dad walked her to the church and down the aisle. There is no picture of my mother and her daughter in the dress. No picture of the bride and her parents. No picture of the bride and the groom, and the bride's family. I did my best to look gorgeous and so did my partner. But we were left completely ignored. All the pictures taken, we're not on one???

I am absolutely FUMING about the whole thing. And that - still a month later !! My brother sent me pictures from my uncle which werent that bad, there was just not a single pic of me and my lovely partner... (maybe they dont like gays, but they didnt even try to have a conversation with her, even if she just speaks english, and not german.) But the WEISS pictures, my brother only sent me like 30, and i quickly looked at maximum 10 pictures and i realized that the WEISS FAMILY only took pictures of themselves. They only photographed each other. I was in tears after i found out at the meyer's house the day before that she chose my brother, because that bitch of sandra (groom's sister) HAD TO BE IN THERE. my sister could've said NO its my sister's turn to be in the light for once!! but no..
But this time i was reeeeally angry you would NOT believe..!! But there's worse coming... I asked my sister in a mail this morning, who the fuck took the 'professional' pre-wedding pictures from the park for god's sake???? i called my mom right after... And... you might not even be surprised, my partner isnt.
Apparently WEISS FAMILY took the pictures ! every single picture, the photographer stands in a bad angle. The pictures look like a random person took a picture of 'a married couple' because the dress looked nice. They just completely look a mess. I was looking forward to the pics because i love working in photoshop and airbrushing and everything, but you cant do anything??? photographer always stands in the wrong position, and on photoshop the only thing you cant do is changing the angle of the bloody picture !!

who exactly took the pictures ? Mum said they went in THREE DAMN cars up there, and they (mama weiss, sister weiss etc....) were sharing one camera and taking 'natural' pictures... WTF???!!!!???

I am absolutely BOILING right now.... absolutely FUMING..!! My mum is upset about the pictures and the wedding. She doesnt want to have ANY picture with these people on it. She doesnt really show it, but i know she is ! and my brother confirmed it (even tho he said dont tell her i told you!)!! there is NO picture from the WEISS side with one of us..! and in general, not even a FAMILY picture with all of us together, absolutely nothing...

I need some people's advice and opinion on my reaction. I dont need anyone confirming me that my mom is upset, i know it just by instinct. My dad says he doesnt care but i KNOW that he does, even if its a BIT. I am SO pissed off that they never said anything to my sister. That my parents werent involved in the wedding at all !! its my parents' right for god's sake !! its their daughter that got married and there's nothing where we can say wow, that was an amazing day. I said to my partner yesterday, this was the first time and the last time for me. Even if she gets kids one day, the christening etc... they're not gonna see me AGAIN. If i wouldnt have been at the wedding, no one would've noticed.

I've got the anger of 4 people inside me.
- My partner - how embarrasing for the first time she comes rounds, and no one opens their arms for her, she didnt feel welcome and completely ignored.
- My mum - her daughter got married and she didnt have a word in the whole thing, there's not even one single picture... the wedding got organized by the WEISS FAMILY. (by the tradition my sister should've gotten dressed at my MUM's house, and my DAD should've driven them up to the church and reception !!)
- My dad - same as my mom.
- Me - sister of the bride - nonexistent. Not even standing right next to her, she had to take my brother because Sandra was more important.

I am SO upset of the fact that she chooses his family over us... that my parents dont want to say anything... that my mom is upset... it should've been a day where my parents (and even siblings) are proud of the bride and the groom, but it wasnt.... Im sure the WEISS FAMILY was. Big time.

another thing - while they organized the wedding for the past year, i have been here in the UK, and i have NEVER been told anything. Either i heard informations from a third person, or i had to fucking ask for it. And thats another point thats sad.

Tell me i have a good reason to be mad and upset ? I know that a lot of people here have common-sense, are married and mature..