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Posts: 52881 (06/06/2009 11:20 AM) |
I'm sorry, I didn't see your post. Honestly like I said it's a very long story that I'm in no mood now to rehash. I'm far from the only one
that feels this way about her, but I know I'm wrong in not going because I should have just sucked it up for one day. But I'm selfish and now I'm
paying for it and making other people miserable. That my MO.
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Posts: 26347 (06/06/2009 11:21 AM) JJB Fashionista '09
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RandomA1 wrote: Emotions are subject to change. |
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Posts: 2613 (06/06/2009 11:22 AM) |
Spamster wrote:If I remember correctly, she regretted not going a few days ago when she first posted about this. I'll have to try to find the thread. |
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Posts: 52882 (06/06/2009 11:22 AM) |
Because now that I was finally left alone to think about it without people chirping in my ear about it, I realized I was wrong. And it just became too hard to
get a flight that wasn't an outrageous price, and now too late period.
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Posts: 2038 (06/06/2009 11:34 AM) |
You had a big posting about this a few days ago. Now you feel worse. In those few days you could have gotten on a plane.
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Posts: 2947 (06/06/2009 11:51 AM) |
Okay so she regretted it a few days ago - who cares? The point is she made a mistake, she can't change it and she feels bad. She knows she screwed up. She
should've realized this a few days ago when she was having regrets but sometimes pride gets in the way and it's not until it's too late that you
learn your lesson, the hard way.
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Posts: 2948 (06/06/2009 11:57 AM) |
And the best thing you can do at this point is get on the phone with someone ASAP to talk to the bride and apologize, ask her forgiveness and make amends
because regardless of if you like her, she's your brothers wife and he's going to take her side. Especially after this. You're running a big ol
risk of losing your brother and causing a lot of division with you and the family. It's not your choice to tell him who to marry. When I got married many
years ago my husbands sister didn't approve and he went years without talking to her because of it. Do yourself a favor and humble yourself and get her on
the phone somehow. You better start apologizing big time.
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Posts: 52884 (06/06/2009 12:04 PM) |
merchasa wrote: It's hard when you can't afford the price of the ticket because it's so last minute. I know I screwed up, and I know apologizing will never be enough, and I just have to live with it now. |
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Posts: 2615 (06/06/2009 12:06 PM) |
merchasa wrote:or driven depending on how far it was 
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Posts: 2952 (06/06/2009 12:07 PM) |
Coulda, shoulda, woulda. She could've taken a bus or hitchhiked but she didn't. Now she's the one risking losing her brother and putting a wedge in
her family. And she feels bad.
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Posts: 5603 (06/06/2009 12:08 PM) |
Apologise to the bride and your brother separately. But yeah call the bride and apologise directly to her, don't pass on the message.
Why do you hate her? The fact that she is now his wife means she will have a lot of influence on your brother, because she will be with him 24/7 and she can definitely influence him into not seeing you*/talking to you as often as he used too, so you better apologise and try and start having a cordial relationship with her. Maybe buy them a big gift with part of the money you where using for the plane ticket and start doing little things for them. You purposely not coming to the wedding will definitely put a strain on you + your brother's relationship so you're going to have to start working on fixing it now. |
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Posts: 158 (06/06/2009 12:10 PM) |
Spamster wrote:This. They are getting married regardless of how you feel so it is time to get on board. This is supposed to be a happy day, and perhaps by offering an apology and support, they will be more willing to forgive you. It is better to rip the band-aid off and do this now before it goes down in family history that they got married and you were not there and did not apologize or support it. Future family gatherings will be awkward and you risk losing your brother. Good luck, hopefully you will be able to make amends and everything will turn out ok. |
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Posts: 52885 (06/06/2009 12:12 PM) |
She has had all the influence anyway. He and I barely talk as it is, don't live in the same state, etc. There are issues there already that don't just
have to deal with her, so not going wasn't just because of her. Doesn't excuse this though and I know that now.
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