Yeah Christianne wrote:Except, like someone else mentioned, he could be at higher risk for some other cancers, sometime down the road. I know I've read it's linked to anal cancer for one. Also, having one strain can make a person at greater risk for contracting another strain I'm pretty sure.
If it's not a strain that causes warts, then the only concern is that it can lead to cervical cancer. That's obviously not an issue for him, so it shouldn't be a huge deal (except that he can pass it to his next girlfriend if there is a next one).
Told him already...
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lolitachic05 |
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Posts: 3306 (06/05/2009 3:12 PM) |
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starlightperfume |
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Posts: 2601 (06/05/2009 3:15 PM) |
towerOVERme wrote:I had never done anything with anyone except my now ex husband and I found out I had it a couple years ago after being together for 7 years. Now that's not fair. From what my gyno told me sometimes it goes away but if it doesn't go away it usually just goes dormant. Your bf still needs to know. |
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Ninido |
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Posts: 6975 (06/05/2009 3:26 PM) |
You need to tell him.
seriously - why even debate this? wtf. |
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imCATastrophic |
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Posts: 1658 (06/05/2009 3:38 PM) |
She's debating it because she's scared and doesn't want to lose something good she's got going on.
Tell him. |
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MALCOLM X |
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Posts: 317 (06/05/2009 3:41 PM) |
imCATastrophic wrote: Thank you. I only found this out yesterday. I've had an abnormal pap in the past but this is the first time I have been told I have HPV. I don't want him to look at me differently. Some of you are acting like this is the easiest thing in the world to tell a partner. It's not. |
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pryncessnyla |
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Posts: 5788 (06/05/2009 3:56 PM) |
I am at a loss for words.
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ALR83 |
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Posts: 52869 (06/05/2009 3:59 PM) |
Okay people she gets it, she knows she has to tell him. Jesus.
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shoebaby1 |
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Posts: 27538 (06/05/2009 4:02 PM) Most Dramatic JJBer '08
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ALR83 |
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Posts: 52870 (06/05/2009 4:04 PM) |
What! I'm pretty sure she's got the point by now, 3 pages later lol.
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ripcurlgirl83 |
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Posts: 4685 (06/05/2009 4:14 PM) |
WELL JUST TELL HIM AND GET IT OVER WITH......IF U 2 WERE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER THEN U CAN LOOK PAST IT ......
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mossumpossum |
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Posts: 258 (06/05/2009 4:40 PM) |
He is at risk for other cancers. Like someone else said, anal cancer, and also lung and mouth cancers if he goes down on you.
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rokhas1yummybumbum |
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Posts: 14214 (06/05/2009 4:51 PM) |
Why is this even a question? If you're stupid enough you even have to ask, you shouldn't be in a relationship.
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Eliza Doolittle |
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Posts: 417 (06/05/2009 7:39 PM) |
I can't help but wonder where you guys get your info from. She can not give it to him. Guys are the carriers but they can not contract it from having sex
with someone who has it.
When I was informed that I had high risk HPV, I asked all these questions because I was so unsure of things. |
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Ninido |
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Posts: 6979 (06/05/2009 7:43 PM) |
obviously it's not like EASY to tell someone but ffs, ASKING if you NEED to tell him is an obviously dumb f-ing question.
Tell him you got a pap, tell him it didn't go well, he'll then ask why/how and then you can say oh well apparently.. bla bla bla, ffs. Not hard. |
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iwantjcslips |
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Posts: 17471 (06/05/2009 7:45 PM) |
He has a right to know.
Turn it the other way around, and then ask yourself, Would you wanna know? |
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Posts: 573 (06/05/2009 8:14 PM) |
Common questions about HPV and men:
Do men get HPV? Yes, men get HPV in the same way women do, through intimate (genital) skin-to-skin contact - usually through sexual intercourse (vaginal or anal). However, HPV rarely causes serious health problems in men, particularly in those who have healthy immune systems. What are the symptoms of the HPV virus? The HPV virus usually does not produce any symptoms. Even if the virus causes changes in skin cells, they are often so minor they are not noticeable (and are not of concern). When the HPV virus does cause noticeable changes, the most common result is genital warts - typically appearing around the anus or on the penis, scrotum (testicles), groin or thighs. These warts can vary in appearance from small, flaky patches to pronounced, raised growths. Genital warts are not serious and can be treated, although they may re-appear if the body's immune system has not fully suppressed the HPV virus. Rarely, "high-risk" types of HPV can cause certain types of cancer, such as cancer of the penis or anus (with the latter usually occurring in gay, bisexual or HIV-positive men). How common is HPV in men? HPV is very common in both men and women. It's difficult to develop specific estimates for men, since large studies among males have not been done in the United States, and an FDA-approved HPV test for men is not available. However, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that more than half of American men will get HPV at some point in their lives. Is there an HPV test for men? There is currently no FDA-approved test to detect HPV in men. That is because an effective, reliable way to collect a sample of male genital skin cells, which would allow detection of HPV, has yet to be developed. However, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention advises men that they don't need to be worried about the lack of an HPV test for them. The agency states that "there is no clear health benefit to knowing if men have this virus, since HPV is unlikely to affect their health and cannot be treated. For most men, there would be no need to treat HPV, even if treatment were available, since it usually goes away on its own." Is there an HPV vaccine for men? The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has not approved use of the first HPV vaccine (marketed as Gardasil®) for boys or men. There are currently no data demonstrating that the vaccine can protect males from getting genital warts or developing HPV-related cancers (such as cancer of the penis, which is rare), or that it can prevent transmission of the virus to women. Should you stop having sex with your partner if she finds out? There is no need to stop having sexual contact with your partner if she is tested for the virus and finds out she has HPV. The virus is commonly exchanged between sexual partners, and by the time HPV is detected, it most likely already has been shared between the two of you. And, once a particular type of the virus has been exchanged, there is little risk of a "ping-pong" effect - in which you and your partner keep re-infecting each other with the same type. (In other words, you don't need to worry about passing the same type of HPV back and forth.) However, if you become sexually involved with a different partner, you may pass any types of HPV that are "active" in your body to her, and vice versa. Remember: HPV is not a sign that you or your partner has been unfaithful. HPV can be "silent" for many years before it is detected by a test. Your partner may have had the HPV virus for a long time, and there is no way to know when or from whom she got it. What can you do to protect yourself, and your partner? Because HPV is so common, it is difficult to avoid it altogether. It is reasonable to expect that you will get HPV at some time during your life. Sexual contact with just one partner can be enough to get or spread the virus. However, you can minimize any risks for you, and your partner, by: * Limiting your number of sexual partners, and choosing partners who do the same. * Wearing a condom when not in a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship. [Condoms protect against most sexually transmitted infections, including HPV. However, they do not provide complete protection against HPV, since they do not cover all genital skin.] * Avoiding sexual contact with a new partner when genital warts are visible. * Encouraging your wife or girlfriend to be screened regularly with a Pap test and (if she is age 30 or older) an HPV test. In addition, studies have shown that men who are circumcised appear to be at less risk of penile cancer than those who are not. |
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Posts: 30 (06/05/2009 8:25 PM) |
Of course you should tell him. As a woman, you should be looking out for other women. If a man has HPV, and NO CLUE that he has it, he'll pass it on to another woman without educating her about it. I"m not saying you're going to break up and he's going to sleep with someone else i'm just saying you need to let him know just in case the future brings that. Lindsey |
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Posts: 124 (06/05/2009 8:31 PM) |
Uh yeaa
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Posts: 9424 (06/05/2009 8:39 PM) |
OP, I already replied but I feel like I need to come back in here because this post got so ugly.
I had the warts AND the high-risk types, so I definitely had to tell my guy. I was so nervous I almost couldn't do it, but when I did he was very understanding. Obviously we held off on sex until my warts were gone, but he literally said, "Well, let's see if they clear up with your treatment. Even if they don't, I'm NOT going to stop having sex with you." I felt much better after telling him and realizing it wasn't going to change our relationship. I know it's terrifying not only to find out you have it but to have to tell someone else. No matter how common a condition it really is, it's still hard to get past your own stigmas of it and accept it. But you will with time. Good luck telling him!
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Posts: 1533 (06/05/2009 9:37 PM) |
what do the warts look like? i dont want to google!
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Good luck telling him!
