She's all mad and weird to me now because she thinks I'm drinking too much or something. I got drunk maybe 4 times this week, which is the most
I've ever done in that time span, and she got all mom on me. So I promised her I wouldn't drink on Friday, and I didn't. I thought I probably got
drunk a little too much this week anyway and I was going to try not to drink for the weekend and she seemed appeased, and it was fine. Then last night I took
ONE shot and now she's mad again. I didn't even get tipsy and I still won't this weekend because I don't want to. It was just a shot. Now
she's like being weird and not really talking to me much and I don't understand.
My best friend is being ridiculous.
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Posts: 2633 (05/03/2009 5:07 PM) |
what the
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Posts: 15507 (05/03/2009 5:07 PM) Best Critic '05 |
It sounds like she is worried about you a little too much. Getting drunk 4 times this week is a lot, but its not as if you are doing this consistently. I can
understand her position though, because she cares about you and obviously doesn't want you to get in trouble/hurt.
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Posts: 2110 (05/03/2009 5:12 PM) |
HumpThatStage wrote: No she's not with me, we both go to different schools. She keeps telling me that I'm "changing" but I mean, it's college. It's not like I'm going to become an alcoholic or anything. I just don't want her thinking less of me or having this screw up our friendship. I know she doesn't really like when I drink but she gets over it and doesn't make a big deal usually. It's never anything that made me feel like our friendship was being threatened or something, like this instance. |
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Posts: 8882 (05/03/2009 5:14 PM) |
I had a friend act like that one time. We were friends and neither of us drank or went to bars when we started college. Then I started drinking and going to
bars and all of a sudden she was screaming that I was changing and endangering myself. It annoyed me because I never even did it in front of her-I usually only
went on Thursday and Friday nights when she was working anyway. Some people just cannot handle that things don't stay the same and sometimes people
experiment.
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Posts: 2367 (05/03/2009 5:19 PM) |
Call your local AA chapter - NOW
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Posts: 1826 (05/03/2009 5:33 PM) |
i think you are drinking a lot. You are in college so that may be typical but maybe she is concerned for some other reason. Are you a mean or bad drunk? Do you
black out or get overly sexual or in bad situations? Do you have members of your family with addictions or alcohol problems - so that your friend would be
concerned that you were following a bad path?
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Posts: 2111 (05/03/2009 5:38 PM) |
merchasa wrote: No, none of those things apply to me.. I'm not a mean drunk or anything, I just go out and have fun and then go back home. I guess she just doesn't trust me to steer clear of bad things and assumes I'm going to end up passed out on the street or something. |
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Posts: 14256 (05/03/2009 5:52 PM) |
From what you posted, I agree with your friend.
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Posts: 2112 (05/03/2009 5:55 PM) |
MeParley wrote: Could you explain why? I'm not trying to be bitchy, I'm really just trying to understand why she's acting like this so maybe I can talk to her better about it. |
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Posts: 3100 (05/03/2009 5:56 PM) |
At least you have a friend that cares!
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Posts: 671 (05/03/2009 6:12 PM) |
Getting drunk 4/5 weeknights is a lot, IMO. I think she is just getting worried because it seems like your drinking may be escalating--you say you won't
drink that much again, but she may be worried the trend will continue, y'know?
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Posts: 1828 (05/03/2009 6:14 PM) |
Why do you say she doesnt trust you to get home okay and to steer clear of bad things?
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You don't think drinking 5 nights a week is a lot? What would you consider a lot? 6 nights a week? 7?
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Getting drunk 4 times in a week is definitely excessive. It may not be typical of you, but that also may be have given her even more reason to raise an eyebrow
at that. It might be annoying, but just be thankful you have a friend who cares enough to bitch you out when she thinks you deserve it.
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Posts: 5523 (05/03/2009 6:25 PM) |
Dana B wrote: Drinking in college can lead to alcoholism |
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Posts: 14257 (05/03/2009 6:26 PM) |
Dana B wrote:I wasn't trying to be bitchy, either. I'll explain why I thought so: 1. getting drunk 4 times in one week is a LOT 2. you said you were "going to try not to drink for the weekend"...this is different than saying "I'm not going to drink", it gives you an out if you do end up drinking. Shades of difference, I know, but it can be significant in showing your state of mind. 3. after the above, you did drink 4. you said you thought you got drunk a "little" too much this week That's why I formed my impression. I think your friend is just trying to watch out for you. At least she cares about you enough to nag you! 
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Posts: 5074 (05/03/2009 6:28 PM) |
It's the fact that you have to get drunk all those times that's a real red flag. You can't just go out and have a glass of wine or a beer?
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Posts: 5688 (05/03/2009 6:33 PM) |
I kind of went through this with a friend this past year. She started drinking a lot more often, and I was kind of weird and passive-aggressive about it in
retrospect. Really, I was just worried about her. If I were you, I'd try to talk to her about it and not be defensive if she wants to talk to you about it.
Maybe you can diffuse the situation before it gets out of hand with her.
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Posts: 2113 (05/03/2009 6:34 PM) |
Thanks for all the responses. I guess I can see why she'd be worried. She actually texted me a few minutes ago saying she was sorry for getting mad at me
and causing a mess, but that she wasn't sorry for being upset about it. I told her it's fine and I'm glad I do have a friend that cares, but
I'm not going to be an alcoholic!
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Posts: 39766 (05/03/2009 6:34 PM) Best Fan Fic Writer '08 |
Given that she's only talking about one week and nobody here has any basis on which to assume this is a regular occurence, it seems rather OTT of people to
start psycho analysing her language and suggesting AA. It's not unusual to have a few bouts of too much partying in college. I know I had a few weeks here
and there where I was out more nights than I was in but they were occasional, not the norm, and these days I barely drink once or twice a month.
So, how about somebody actually asks what her regular drinking is like and then see if that answer actually rings alarm bells instead of just assuming that one heavy week means every week's that heavy and she's an alcoholic in the making?
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