Sorry... just the pessimist in me coming out.
(and I actually don't think that's the reason he didn't invite you. If I were you, I'd ask him point blank why you were not invited to go, and see what he says.)
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Posts: 14438 (03/28/2009 2:35 PM) |
Maybe the brother has some hot friend that your boyfriend is into, and he didn't want you going with him because he had an ulterior motive.
Sorry... just the pessimist in me coming out. (and I actually don't think that's the reason he didn't invite you. If I were you, I'd ask him point blank why you were not invited to go, and see what he says.) |
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EJFiederer |
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Posts: 12495 (03/28/2009 2:39 PM) |
Sweetie1384 wrote: Seriously!! It is his brothers reception. Not his!! His brothers guest list. Not his! Just because it is casual as far as you know doesn't mean that the guest list isn't set or it isn't an expensive affair. You can't compare Christmas and Thanksgiving to a catered or invitation reception. It's just not the same. I'm sorry I just can't agree with you being so upset about that aspect of it! You have had extremely limited contact with his brother. You are nothing to him and he is not obligated to include you. |
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NiteSky83 |
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Posts: 6955 (03/28/2009 2:41 PM) |
What do you mean by reception? Reception for what? I'm confusedYou're dumb. |
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xxGirlxxFixerxx |
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Posts: 1667 (03/28/2009 2:41 PM) |
Well that makes sense then, only having met the brother twice. Obviously you aren't close so I wouldn't expect an invite, nor would I be peeved.
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Kippage |
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Posts: 4628 (03/28/2009 2:43 PM) |
Just because you're dating someone doesn't mean you should be invited to all of their family events. Especially six months into a relationship. Sit
back and chill.
Hell, at six months my family wouldn't even know I was seeing anyone, forget meeting them. |
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McCaining Around |
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Posts: 23 (03/28/2009 2:43 PM) |
NiteSky83 wrote:
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Driedflowers |
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Posts: 442 (03/28/2009 2:44 PM) |
EJFiederer wrote:Maybe it's just my past experience with weddings. You almost always get an invitation for yourself and a date if you wish to bring one. I was invited to bring a date to my cousins wedding and plenty of my friends weddings...it didn't matter who I brought or if the groom or bride had any relationship with that person. I thought that was a common thing for weddings and receptions. Maybe I'm wrong. |
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Triple X Tera |
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Posts: 31695 (03/28/2009 2:45 PM) |
NickelodeonSucksLoL wrote:I got clowned? lol I wouldn't say I did considering she never stated it was a reception after he eloped. Let us know what he says after you ask him why you weren't invited. |
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xxGirlxxFixerxx |
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Posts: 1668 (03/28/2009 2:46 PM) |
Do you know if he even had a +1 invite? Like someone said, maybe it was a budget thing or maybe it was just a small event for close family and friends.
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McCaining Around |
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Posts: 25 (03/28/2009 2:47 PM) |
Obviously this is bothering you. So I think you need to just ask him. If you don't like the answer he gives you, then maybe you shouldn't be with him. And it's better you find that out now, 6 months into it, then say.. 2 years from now, isn't it? |
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EJFiederer |
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Posts: 12496 (03/28/2009 2:47 PM) |
But you said that they are already married. This is just a reception after the fact to celebrate that, most likely with their closest family and friends. If
they had a big wedding maybe things would be different but this is what they chose to do and I don't see how you can hold that against your boyfriend.
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Heathus Christ |
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Posts: 422 (03/28/2009 2:48 PM) |
Why is she dumb? I don't understand what kind of reception it is, either.
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NickelodeonSucksLoL |
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Posts: 2956 (03/28/2009 2:48 PM) |
Driedflowers wrote:You're not. That's proper wedding ceremony/ reception etiquette. |
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Posts: 2957 (03/28/2009 2:50 PM) |
Triple X Tera wrote: I was talking to the OP and not at all to you. That's why I bolded her reply, but not yours. I was saying that my friend would've
said that to her.
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Driedflowers |
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Posts: 443 (03/28/2009 2:55 PM) |
NickelodeonSucksLoL wrote:Thank you for saying that. I felt like maybe I was crazy. Clearly I don't have a relationship with my BF's brother, but I was basing my lack of invitation of my previous wedding experiences. lol. This could be totally different, maybe his brother didn't give him an option. I just need to get the balls to ask him what's up. |
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lonely33 |
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Posts: 2162 (03/28/2009 3:05 PM) |
Dating six months isn't a long enough time to be hanging around the family like that, IMO.
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Suzy321 |
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Posts: 4726 (03/28/2009 3:06 PM) |
Just because it's a "casual" reception doesn't mean money isn't tight and/or that it's not just close friends and family.
Yes, you've been dating the guy for 6 months, but the reception is for the brother. It's possible he just wanted the time to hang out with family and celebrate his brother's wedding... and not worry about keeping you amused. |
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babylulu |
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Posts: 24680 (03/28/2009 3:15 PM) |
Maybe it was just a small get together with family and you're not family...
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Posts: 4910 (03/28/2009 3:15 PM) |
lonely33 wrote: Really? I've been dating my boyfriend 6 months, and if either of us was invited to a family wedding reception, I can guarantee we'd each ask the other to attend. I didn't realize there was a set timeline to relationships. |
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PudgieBelly |
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Posts: 1099 (03/28/2009 3:25 PM) |
How are you going to be pissed off that you aren't invited to a reception of someone you've met twice? You have to understand it's his
brother's reception and he is in charge of inviting people, and perhaps since he eloped he really only wanted people he cared about there, like his close
family and friends. I wouldn't get upset about it.
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