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Do you believe in a prenup?
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Do you believe in a prenup? |
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Posts: 19931 (03/16/2009 7:34 PM) |
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Truffle Shuffle |
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Posts: 1948 (03/16/2009 7:35 PM) |
Hell yes. Protect your ass for those "just incase" moments.
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groovydee4 |
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Posts: 88 (03/16/2009 7:36 PM) |
Yep. And if I were going to marry a rich guy, I wouldn't be offended if he asked me to sign one. The divorce rate is too high and too many things can
happen. I know people want to believe that their marriage will last forever, but it's all about protecting yourself.
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Irishlvr04 |
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Posts: 3467 (03/16/2009 7:37 PM) |
I wouldnt feel comfortable planning my divorce before i am even married...lol But if i did make one and my husband was the one with the money I would put in
there that if he cheated on me the pre nup would be null and void. Bc why should a woman be thrown out on her ass with nothing bc the guy wants to leave her
for someone else?
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ReliantJ.niketalk |
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Posts: 275 (03/16/2009 7:37 PM) |
Yes, but I'd probably be scared to ask her for one.
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DrHome |
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Posts: 58 (03/16/2009 7:37 PM) |
Yep! Those who are against them are obviously poor because they dont know what it's like for the need to protect your assets.
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 4711 (03/16/2009 7:38 PM) |
groovydee4 wrote: |
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merchasa |
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Posts: 1509 (03/16/2009 7:39 PM) |
I believe that prenups, even if unsigned, are amazing at getting people to discuss some uncomfortable but necessary shit before getting married that many
people just don't do unless they go through the process of a prenup.
Things like, how do you spend money, or save money. What is your credit score. Sharing past tax return information. Discussion of debt, plans for education, plans for children, or elderly parents. Insurance. Investments. How to deal with illness, mental or physical. Expectations regarding education and children. Religion. It blows your mind how many people marry without really talking about the tough stuff. |
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 ALR83 |
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Posts: 52535 (03/16/2009 7:53 PM) |
Irishlvr04 wrote: That is my one stipulation for signing one. |
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Samantha James |
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Posts: 10364 (03/16/2009 7:57 PM) |
Hell yes.
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Sleepn |
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Posts: 16557 (03/16/2009 8:08 PM) Most Mysterious '08 |
the idea of a pre-nup doesn't offend me at all. i can't believe it would be offensive to anyone these days.
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Juicy07 |
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Posts: 5842 (03/16/2009 8:19 PM) |
Absolutely.
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Dylishis |
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Posts: 4763 (03/16/2009 8:22 PM) Most Outspoken '08
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Nope. If I'm broke when I marry my rich man, I'm going all in! But if I'm rich then...yeah.
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imnotsayingitright |
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Posts: 25707 (03/16/2009 8:24 PM) |
I don't really care either way.
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BlackStilettos |
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Posts: 25293 (03/16/2009 8:25 PM) JJB Fashionista '09
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Yes! Absolutely. I've been deadset on getting a prenup for the past few years.
I guess I can see why people feel offended when their SO requests one, but it's intendee to protect both members of the relationship, so it's a win-win situation. |
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Muzak one |
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Posts: 30436 (03/16/2009 8:26 PM) |
Yes.
I used to think it was predicted the end before it begins. But now I think its about being realistic. |
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nardpuppy |
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Posts: 591 (03/16/2009 8:27 PM) |
No.
My boyfriend and I make the same money, I'm not too concerned. |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 4714 (03/16/2009 8:27 PM) |
merchasa wrote: Great post. |
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Muzak one |
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Posts: 30438 (03/16/2009 8:35 PM) |
nardpuppy wrote:You make the same amount of money now. What if you advance in your career, but you bf struggles. 10 years later you become a manager and end up making $200,000. Unfortunately, your now hubby is only making $40,000. He feels emasculated and divorces you. You have no pre-nup. Are you prepared to pay him spousal support? I wouldn't. |
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Valenka |
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Posts: 164 (03/16/2009 9:10 PM) |
I would have said no a few years ago.
Now that I've been divorced, I wouldn't dream of marrying again without thePN. Especially including the cheating clause. |
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IrshDncr0325 |
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Posts: 5398 (03/16/2009 9:15 PM) |
Muzak one wrote:Or he ever loses his job? You need to think about what MAY happen in the future, not how it is now. I absolutely believe in one. I'm very careful about the marriage thing. Boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, friends for 7 and we're still not even close to getting married. I don't want to be another statistic in the books for 1 in every 2 marriages failing. It's especially harder because we're both in law enforcement and no matter where you look, everyone says that the rate between those professions is like 80% for divorce. So, when I do finally decide to do it, I will have things in place for my own protection. I don't necessarily believe it's "setting yourself up" for divorce, but it's watching your own back, looking out for your own best interest. If you don't do that for yourself, certainly no one else will. |
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