Do you think it's okay to ask your guests for gift cards as wedding presents?
Wedding etiquette question.
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 twilightschild |
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Posts: 18966 (03/13/2009 5:52 PM) |
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Jillian808 |
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Posts: 15407 (03/13/2009 5:54 PM) |
Ask how?
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cnicole1130 |
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Posts: 7958 (03/13/2009 5:55 PM) |
Your guests should be able to give you whatever they want to give you. I doubt your old aunt is going to go to the store and buy you a gift card.
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twilightschild |
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Posts: 18967 (03/13/2009 5:56 PM) |
Hm, I'm not sure. I guess the same place you put the registry information (I know some people put it on the invite).
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Caitlin81 |
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Posts: 11953 (03/13/2009 5:56 PM) |
No that is not ok. Do you think it is?
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timberpond02 |
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Posts: 33190 (03/13/2009 5:58 PM) |
That is like telling people what you want for Christmas. It's tacky.
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twilightschild |
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Posts: 18968 (03/13/2009 5:59 PM) |
Caitlin81 wrote: No, but my friend does. She has reached depths of tackiness that I never could have imagined. |
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cnicole1130 |
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Posts: 7959 (03/13/2009 5:59 PM) |
my family always gives cash/check and if I see that they want a gift card I'd be a bitch and go out and buy an actual present,
 I agree I think
it's tacky
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PudgieBelly |
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Posts: 862 (03/13/2009 6:09 PM) |
I have an etiquette question - what if you are getting married but already have a house and all the stuff you need for that said house and would rather money
if people are going to get you anything at all. What should you do in that situation? Completely hypothetical as I have no ring nor a home.
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cnicole1130 |
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Posts: 7962 (03/13/2009 6:12 PM) |
PudgieBelly wrote: You get what you get. Every wedding that I've ever been to they always get money or checks. I honestly have never seen a physical gift given. But then if you get an actual something I'd just return it if you don't need it. DO NOT straight up ask for cash, it's so rude and tacky and I bet you'd lose guests/get less money/or they'd give you a physical gift on purpose. |
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Pliant Pineapple |
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Posts: 44482 (03/13/2009 6:18 PM) Funniest JJBer '06
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Hell no asking people for gift cards as wedding gifts is not ok.
And it's not ok to ask for money, either. You get what your guests give you. You NEVER dictate gifts unless you're looking for a lot of people to want to go 
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smurfgirl06 |
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Posts: 1142 (03/13/2009 6:20 PM) |
On my friend's Target registry, she and her fiancee have Target Gift Cards listed. I don't know if they put it on there, or if Target automatically put
it on there. I have a feeling Target might do it automatically, and they didn't have a choice in the matter.
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 starlightperfume |
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Posts: 2338 (03/13/2009 6:22 PM) |
I see no difference in asking for gift cards than having a wedding registry. Do people think registries are tacky?
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cnicole1130 |
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Posts: 7964 (03/13/2009 6:22 PM) |
smurfgirl06 wrote:See if it was me and I saw it on their registry I would buy the gift card if I didn't see anything else that I liked. But I think it's rude to actually ask face to face or on an invitation or anything. |
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Pliant Pineapple |
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Posts: 44484 (03/13/2009 6:22 PM) Funniest JJBer '06
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It's understandable when a store gets stupid and throws that on a registry as a default that cannot be changed...but it is not cool to specify money/gift
cards and such on an invitation.
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cnicole1130 |
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Posts: 7965 (03/13/2009 6:23 PM) |
starlightperfume wrote: an actual registry that you register for before you get married? or like a bridal shower one? isn't that the point of a bridal shower I think to have
2 is tacky.
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RedLampDistrict |
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Posts: 8172 (03/13/2009 6:23 PM) |
I think it's just fine to put it on a registry.
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starlightperfume |
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Posts: 2339 (03/13/2009 6:27 PM) |
cnicole1130 wrote:I thought people had registries for their wedding but the bridal shower was more personal. I've never been to either as an adult so I've never had to buy a gift. |
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Pliant Pineapple |
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Posts: 44487 (03/13/2009 6:27 PM) Funniest JJBer '06
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starlightperfume wrote: Having a registry = ok as it assists your guests in knowing what you need Including registry information in your invitation = kinda iffy Specifying on the invitation that you want cash only/gift cards only/no gifts = BZZZZZT you lose. |
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cnicole1130 |
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Posts: 7968 (03/13/2009 6:28 PM) |
starlightperfume wrote: I never heard/seen people having a registry for their wedding, I thought you just had one for your bridal shower and be done with it. |
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beklah324 |
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Posts: 21756 (03/13/2009 6:30 PM) |
I've never seen a bridal shower registry. When you go to some stores online, they usually only have a wedding and a baby registry available.
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