Yeah, it does sound like you're making excuses. The problem is not so much what he does (and he may very well stop doing it now that you pointed it out)
but why he does it. So even if he's not talking about her as much, the fact remains that he seems to have strong feelings for someone other than his
girlfriend. If you can live with that, then that's fine. But at least be aware.
The weird thing is (which is the part I wanted to get your opinions on) is that my boyfriend is almost obsessed with her. He talks about her a lot and is really protective over her. Whenever the 3 of us are at a party, he always seems to gravitate toward her rather than me, which some of our other friends have noticed as well. He will drop almost anything to help her out if she needs a ride, etc. I know that nothing is going on (physically) between them, but it drives me crazy that he is always focused on her and will basically ditch me at a party to take care of her.
). There is always
some underlying attraction there whether it is recognized or not. Even if it is not mutual, many times it is onesided, where one person is pining away
(secretly) for their "best friend". Just because you might think that your guy friend/girl friend doesn't like you doesn't mean they
don't, they might just repress it.
