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celebtrashwhore wrote:

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Laurenette wrote:

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My dad needs a kidney. He hasn't asked. If he did, I think I would have to do it but he hasn't asked and I haven't offered.

Is there a reason you havent offered or at least been tested? Or he doesnt want you to go through something that serious.

And yes, i would if it ws someone in my immediate family and we didnt get along. Lol unfortunately.

End of 2007 he went into the hospital six times because his kidneys weren't functioning. He's diabetic and he smokes/eats whatever and so his kidneys started shutting down. Finally after the sixth time, they put him on dialysis and he agreed to quit smoking and live right.

Well, he hasn't. He pretends when he's around us but then suddenly he'll get an urge to take the dog for a walk around the block (yeah right), or he'll sneak off into the woods if we're at a family function or hide behind a car. When we're not around, he smokes openly around other family members. What's funny is that he will call and ask for money for cigarettes and then do this stuff, pretending not to smoke.

And that's just the tip of the iceberg. The last time he was in the hospital I went and stayed up with him the whole time out of guilt and had a long talk with him about that and his eating. He promised to do better. So when he's around us, he acts like he eats like a bird and says "oh, I can't have that, I'll just eat these raw vegetables." But now I found out that he eats every single meal OUT at this greasy restaurant with his one and only friend, and he told that friend that he can have whatever he wants because the dialysis will take care of it. At the holidays we make sure to have healthy things for him, but he hides in the utility room and eats the stuff he wants.

There's more reasons (overall a liar and scam artist all his life) but those are the two that are directly related to his kidneys. If I offered a kidney, he'd kill it just like he killed his. And he'd lie in the process. I'm exhausted from a lifetime of his lies, I have nothing left to give him.

But like I say, if he came out and asked I'd probably feel guilty enough to do it.

Edit - I should say that he SAYS he needs a transplant. He carries his phone with him at all times and acts like he's terrified to lose it because "they" could call at any minute with a kidney for him. I don't know for sure that he's actually on the transplant list, for all I know he's lying about that like he lies about everything else. And he sure as hell WOULD lie about it.

celebtrashwhore wrote:

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Laurenette wrote:

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There's more reasons (overall a liar and scam artist all his life) but those are the two that are directly related to his kidneys. If I offered a kidney, he'd kill it just like he killed his. And he'd lie in the process. I'm exhausted from a lifetime of his lies, I have nothing left to give him.

But like I say, if he came out and asked I'd probably feel guilty enough to do it.

Oh wow. Thank you for sharing. Im sorry to hear about his situation.

Thanks, that's nice of you to say. We've lived with it a long time so we're getting used to it. The only one he's really hurting now is himself.