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Posts: 13190 (11/12/2008 7:17 PM) |
My best friend committed suicide and I didn't even know he was depressed. What does that say about the kind of friend I am? Every time we were together,
he was laughing and smiling. There were literally no signs.
I feel guilty for not knowing, not seeing it. |
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Posts: 10090 (11/12/2008 7:18 PM) |
a lot of people hide the fact that they are depressed from everyone, including the people closest to them.
I'm sorry for your loss 
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Posts: 2136 (11/12/2008 7:20 PM) |
I'm sorry
Don't blame yourself though. Most people that are depressed are really good at hiding it. |
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Posts: 6219 (11/12/2008 7:20 PM) Most Likely To Respond with a Gif '09
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Jesus. My prayers are with you right now.
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Posts: 13191 (11/12/2008 7:21 PM) |
Yes, I talked to his sister. She didn't seem to want to get into it too much, but there was no note. I don't know what happened. There was no
indication he was depressed or suicidal.
I wish he would've talked to me - I would've done anything for him. I would've taken all the time off from school and flown to be with him. Friends ALWAYS come first. I'm so angry and resentful at myself for not being there. |
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Posts: 28379 (11/12/2008 7:21 PM) News Editor |
 I am so sorry! I had a friend that committed suicide a little over 2 years ago and I had no warning signs that she was depressed either.
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Posts: 17786 (11/12/2008 7:22 PM) |
dude I am so sorry. Some people are really good at hiding pain and not letting even those they are closest to see it. Don't feel guilty.
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Posts: 14601 (11/12/2008 7:23 PM) |
Depression is very easy to hide. I've also heard that someone who is depressed & is contemplating suicide is happy the day they decide to do it, &
it means they've finally decided to go through with it. It's not your fault. Obviously, no one could see it.
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Posts: 41552 (11/12/2008 7:23 PM) |
I'm sure his family probably had no idea either. You can't blame yourself. Some of us are better at hiding things then others.
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Posts: 30046 (11/12/2008 7:26 PM)
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and his family!
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Posts: 332 (11/12/2008 7:27 PM) |
Don't blame yourself, you would have never known. I lost my cuz in may to suicide and i swear that I thought the same. Depression is an easy thing to hide
for some. I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.
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Posts: 13192 (11/12/2008 7:29 PM) |
They were looking for me at OU, they didn't know I graduated and couldn't find me.
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Posts: 13193 (11/12/2008 7:29 PM) |
His sister gave me her number to talk more - I'm scared to call.
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Posts: 216 (11/12/2008 7:30 PM) |
Listen, do not blame yourself for not seeing it. No one knows me here, so I will let this out - I attempted suicide myself 9 years ago. No one had any idea how
depressed I truely was. My best friend, my brother - everyone felt the same way you are, that they should have known. There was no way to, I could have won an
Oscar with the performance I put on every single day. They had no way to know I went to sleep every night hoping not to wake up.
You will need help yourself to deal with this; a support group is important. You might check out http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/ to help you out. |
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Posts: 9546 (11/12/2008 7:32 PM) |
 I'm sorry to hear this.
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Posts: 1818 (11/12/2008 7:33 PM) Biggest Health Nut '08
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oh my god.
I'm so sorry!
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Posts: 13194 (11/12/2008 7:34 PM) |
KimipeliLinei wrote: 
Thank you for sharing that with me. I'll call his sister, even though I'm scared to. |
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Posts: 631 (11/12/2008 7:35 PM) |
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KimipeliLinei |
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Posts: 217 (11/12/2008 7:39 PM) |
No, I am definitely much better. I do feel so blessed that what I did that night did not work. I was hospitalized inpatient several weeks and continues therapy
a long time after but I look at my life and if I had missed out on everything I have now....I can't imagine. Anyone who ever contemplates suicide,
seriously...if anyone reading this has or is...just know, it will get better. I have a job I enjoy, just signed on a house yesterday with a man I love more
than I ever thought I could, lost over 100 pounds in the last year....could go on and on. But I won't, sorry for how long that was.
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Posts: 1165 (11/12/2008 7:40 PM) |
I just recently went to the funeral of a friend from high school who hung himself. I grew up with him, knew him since I was in kindergarten, knew his family,
was close with both him and his twin brother all through school... No one in their family or even his twin expected it. I may not have been best friends with
him, but it was still really hard to go through and I cried a whole lot. It was hard to get my mind off of it. Good luck with everything. Talk it out with
someone, give yourself time to process it... it never really goes away, but you will feel better eventually.
Honestly, coming here to talk helped a lot for me. |
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Posts: 14071 (11/12/2008 7:43 PM) |
JtzCrunkster81 wrote:Exactly. A lot of times, once they've decided to go through with the act, they're very happy because they know they're about to find release. Never blame yourself.
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