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05/09/2012 1:13 AM
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shoebaby1 wrote:Hold up! Hold up! Ring thee alarm! Stop the presses a guy seemed interested and you requested him on Facebook? You might as well had stripped butt naked and gave him a lap dance you filthy thing?! Haha You did nothing wrong, he sounds like a weirdo. Guys are strange!
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05/09/2012 1:33 AM
franknbeans82 wrote:Glory Glory Hallelujah wrote:Damn, sending a fb request = throwing yourself at him? jjb is making me feel like friend requests are on par with asking to be besties or proposing marriage.
Glory Glory Hallelujah wrote:Damn, sending a fb request = throwing yourself at him?
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05/09/2012 1:35 AM
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flatxchewxlate wrote:shoebaby1 wrote:Hold up! Hold up! Ring thee alarm! Stop the presses a guy seemed interested and you requested him on Facebook? You might as well had stripped butt naked and gave him a lap dance you filthy thing?! Haha You did nothing wrong, he sounds like a weirdo. Guys are strange!Well, I may or may not have given him googly eyes. I'M SUCH A WHORE!!!!
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05/09/2012 2:11 AM
Mistress Darcy wrote:franknbeans82 wrote:Glory Glory Hallelujah wrote:Damn, sending a fb request = throwing yourself at him? jjb is making me feel like friend requests are on par with asking to be besties or proposing marriage. I am now wondering how many people I have caused to flip their shit because I friend requested them. Like, did they think that was a BFF invitation or the equivalent of me throwing my naked body against them?I don't think anyone has ever not accepted my friend request, but I wonder if a few of them were furiously upset and concerned about it before accepting I don't know I will continue using Facebook as a friendly, casual little socializing tool. I would never place so much importance on it that it would "ruin my life" or stress me out if someone friend requested me.
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05/09/2012 8:20 AM
flatxchewxlate wrote:RandomA1 wrote:celebtrashwhore wrote:If its so meaningless-- why even friend request someone?I was just offering the OP a different perspective.It seems like a really passive way to feel connected to someone and to find out more information about them. And in a manner where the person has little control over what youre finding out about them. Yes there are filters but then whats the point of adding someone. I just feel like if you like someone you should try to engage them more actively-- get their number or hang out with them in person. "Were facebookfriends!" ...Now what?I want to know theyre accruing information about me based on what im telling them and not just clicking through stuff online. OP found out his age (and maybe even his kids age?)-- and you tend to puzzle together a picture of a person or jump to conclusions that may or may not be true. And even if give my phone number out-- Im still in control. I can chose to pick up or not. I agree about FB. This guy recently asked me to find him on FB after we texted a bunch and I was like . I'm always super hesitant about whose requests I accept (I pretty much refuse to become friends with co-workers or people I've just met). I definitely agree that people tend to make snap judgments about you based on your FB. Plus I'm a pretty private person and like to reveal myself on my terms vs based on what's on FB. (There was even an episode about this on How I Met Your Mother about Ted making a pact with his upcoming date to not FB each other and find out every detail of each other's lives). After the guy accepted my request, I went on his and he barely has anything on his so I was like "great...he probably just wanted to check me out". I heard from him a little that day and not for a day or 2 after so of course I was freaking out [unnecessarily] that there was something that bothered him about me. I was worried about nothing. This leads me to point #2...Facebook ruins lives! It doesn't matter whether he accepted your request or not and try not to worry about it. I'm not usually on FB most of the time. If I get a request and get sent an email notification, that still won't cause me to go on. It might be the same for him. I would just see how he reacts the next time he comes in. Like others said, maybe he was having a bad day. Don't freak yourself out over this.Like I've already said....I'm not devastated by this. Yes, it's a bummer, because he seemed really cool and seemed like someone I could have fun with and learn from, whether it be in a romantic or friendly manner. But if someones life gets ruined by facebook, they need to get a damn grip! It's a WEBSITE! I've sent people friend requests in the past and have been denied, yet I still talk to them. It's not a big deal! I understand that some people may view facebook in a different way than I do, and that's ok! There's about 5 bajillion dudes out in the world. One of them is bound to accept my friend request eventually!
RandomA1 wrote:celebtrashwhore wrote:If its so meaningless-- why even friend request someone?I was just offering the OP a different perspective.It seems like a really passive way to feel connected to someone and to find out more information about them. And in a manner where the person has little control over what youre finding out about them. Yes there are filters but then whats the point of adding someone. I just feel like if you like someone you should try to engage them more actively-- get their number or hang out with them in person. "Were facebookfriends!" ...Now what?I want to know theyre accruing information about me based on what im telling them and not just clicking through stuff online. OP found out his age (and maybe even his kids age?)-- and you tend to puzzle together a picture of a person or jump to conclusions that may or may not be true. And even if give my phone number out-- Im still in control. I can chose to pick up or not. I agree about FB. This guy recently asked me to find him on FB after we texted a bunch and I was like . I'm always super hesitant about whose requests I accept (I pretty much refuse to become friends with co-workers or people I've just met). I definitely agree that people tend to make snap judgments about you based on your FB. Plus I'm a pretty private person and like to reveal myself on my terms vs based on what's on FB. (There was even an episode about this on How I Met Your Mother about Ted making a pact with his upcoming date to not FB each other and find out every detail of each other's lives). After the guy accepted my request, I went on his and he barely has anything on his so I was like "great...he probably just wanted to check me out". I heard from him a little that day and not for a day or 2 after so of course I was freaking out [unnecessarily] that there was something that bothered him about me. I was worried about nothing. This leads me to point #2...Facebook ruins lives! It doesn't matter whether he accepted your request or not and try not to worry about it. I'm not usually on FB most of the time. If I get a request and get sent an email notification, that still won't cause me to go on. It might be the same for him. I would just see how he reacts the next time he comes in. Like others said, maybe he was having a bad day. Don't freak yourself out over this.
celebtrashwhore wrote:If its so meaningless-- why even friend request someone?I was just offering the OP a different perspective.It seems like a really passive way to feel connected to someone and to find out more information about them. And in a manner where the person has little control over what youre finding out about them. Yes there are filters but then whats the point of adding someone. I just feel like if you like someone you should try to engage them more actively-- get their number or hang out with them in person. "Were facebookfriends!" ...Now what?I want to know theyre accruing information about me based on what im telling them and not just clicking through stuff online. OP found out his age (and maybe even his kids age?)-- and you tend to puzzle together a picture of a person or jump to conclusions that may or may not be true. And even if give my phone number out-- Im still in control. I can chose to pick up or not.
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05/09/2012 9:32 AM
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I would not have friend requested him on facebook. I think that is pushing it. I've been dating a guy for a month and facebook still has not come up. If he requests me, fine. But neither of us are big on the whole facebook thing anyways, so it really doesn't matter to me when or if it happens.
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Jeannine8 wrote:^ See? The FB thing had an explanation like a lot of us thought, there's some good reasons for people not adding random people like that sometimes.
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